Fixed It: over reaction or repeatedly abusive choices?

October 19, 2020by Jane Gilmore

Perspective is everything. 

Whoever read this article and then wrote this headline for News Mail ignored the man’s conviction on five counts of common assault as a domestic violence offence. They ignored the quote in the first line about his “complete disregard” for domestic violence orders. They ignored the sentence about the “large number of domestic violence contraventions in his criminal history”. They ignored the description of him pushing his partner a number of times, putting his hand over her mouth so she couldn’t call for help, holding her down on a bed and refusing to leave her workplace.

The person who wrote this headline ignored everything in the article that describes an abusive man with a history of disregarding parole and fines for domestic violence. Instead they chose the one phrase that erases his ongoing violent choices and implied the woman he’s been abusing is just being silly. It’s an “over reaction”.

What might motivate someone to do that, I wonder?

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