Men are in trouble, they really really are. They are the ones mostly likely to kill themselves, each other, womenand children. Men are also vastly overrepresented in incarceration rates, suicide, preventable death, problem gambling, smoking rates, dangerous alcohol consumption levels, drug abuse, workplace fatalities, perpetrators of assault, loneliness, car accidents and homelessness. Clearly men need advocacy, services, research and help to change whatever it is that’s causing such terrible outcomes for so many them. 

Can we all agree though, that more murder is not what men need? That a man who kills people is not acting for “men’s rights“? I mean, is ‘don’t kill people’ really raising the bar too high for men’s rights?

Murdering judges and lawyers is not advocating for men. Hating women is not advocating for men. Railing against (and killing) people who provide assistance for women is not advocating for men.

Men are not going to get the help they so desperately need while people keep confusing advocating for men with acting against women. They’re not the same thing. One is aimed at helping men, the other is trying to harm women. 

(as always, if you’re reading this on social media, links are in the OP at )

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