Moratorium on the #NotAllMen arguments

March 23, 2015by Jane Gilmore

I’ve been writing about male violence against women for a while now. And I will continue to do so for as long as it’s needed, and I will keep talking and debating and arguing about it as long as I need to.

But I’m taking the #NotAllMen pledge, right here and now.

I will not engage in the #NotAllMen debate ever again. From now on, I’m just going to respond to every #NotAllMen yelp with a dirty limerick.

Seriously. Every single time I publish, it’s the only reaction I can count on. Sometimes lots of people read my articles and like them, sometimes the article sinks like a stone and doesn’t even make a ripple. Occasionally I get abuse, sometimes people say nice things, but the only thing I know I will get Every Single Time is some dude crywanking into his keyboard about how incredibly sexist it is to say that most violence is committed by men and NOT ALL MEN ARE blah blah blah blah

Every. Single. Time.

I’m so sick of it.

For the very last time:
No, not all men. Of course not all men. What the fuck is wrong with you that you would even suggest that all men are violent?

I have never said or thought that all men are violent and the reason I have never said it or thought it is because it is a preposterous thing to say or think.

I don’t know why you hear ALL Men when what was said was “a man” or “some men” and I don’t know why you feel like you have to defend yourself from an attack that is clearly directed at the men who are violence, not at the majority of men who are NOT violent. But it’s obviously a problem you have, not a problem I have, and so, I just don’t care any more.

There was a man from Capri
Who tried to piss over a tree
The tree was too high
And it fell in his eye
And now the poor bugger can’t see.

© Jane Gilmore 2014