NME ran an article yesterday about James Arthur’s autobiography, Back To The Boy, under a headline that implies his girlfriend’s decision to end their relationship caused him to become addicted to sex.
He’s quoted as saying, “I started bingeing on sex. I became as addicted to sex as I was to weed. I craved sex, I had to have it and I needed it to fill the void and make myself feel better.”
It’s difficult to tell from the article whether he blames the woman for what happened to him but given the book is supposed to be about his battles with addiction and mental illness and how he overcame them, it seems unlikely.
“I was struggling for survival every day and I didn’t even feel like myself. Under my skin, I was still the same frightened, fearful little boy I’d always been.” Doesn’t sound like the words of a person who thinks someone else is responsible for his own actions and choices, does it?
So why run a headline that blames a woman for a man’s choices? Habit? Tradition? Laziness? Thoughtlessness? This is how it’s always been done so this is how it always will be done?
No one, not even a woman, can cause addition in someone else.
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