Fixed It: There’s no such thing as “sex with” a 7 year old

November 20, 2020by Jane Gilmore

Ballarat newspaper The Courier reported that a 32 year old man pleaded guilty to multiple counts of sexually abusing a little girl over several years. The abuse started when she was seven years old. 

Children cannot have sex with adults. Sex requires consent and children cannot give consent, so it’s not sex. It’s rape, it’s child abuse, it’s sexual abuse, it’s any number of terms that accurately describe a crime. An act perpetrated on an innocent victim who was unable to defend themselves from the violence done to them, and who suffers  years, possibly decades of trauma caused by an adult’s choice to commit that violence.

That word choice is the key. Sex is a choice made by every person involved. Rape and abuse are a choice made only by the perpetrator. The victim has no choice.

No child has ever chosen to be abused. No child has ever done anything that caused or incited abuse. No child has ever wanted to be abused. No child has ever been in any way responsible for abuses committed against them by adults.

When the media, as it so persistently does, labels rape or sexual abuse of children as “sex”, we are weakening the public understanding of the seriousness and effect of such abuse.

It’s ignorant, inaccurate and irresponsible reporting in any publication, but it is particularly repugnant in Ballarat, which was the centre of so much abuse of children by the clergy.

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