He can look like a good bloke and a great friend. 

He can look like your brother, your best mate, your colleagues or your footy mates. 

He can look like your hero. 

He can look like you.  

If you know ten men in Australia there’s a good chance you know a rapist. Yes, you too. Not some other guy who wouldn’t know if his friend is a rapist. You. 

A man who rapes women can be horrified when he is accused of rape.

A man who rapes women can cry when he is convicted of rape. 

A man who rapes women can swear he never touched her and sound like he’s telling the truth.

He is still a rapist. 

Women almost never lie about being raped. Rapists almost always lie about committing rape. 

At least (at the very least) half of women between the ages of 25 and 30 in Australia say they have been sexually assaulted in their lifetime. This violence is not happening at the hands of one or two bad apples. 

Apples don’t rape women. Men do. Probably a man you know. 

Who do you want to be? The man who supports a rapist or the man who supports the woman who was raped?


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